When you're a mom, you flood social media with all of your proud mommy moments. The soccer goals. Those precious first steps and first words. Photos of beautiful homemade cookies that mom and child made. Not many of us are logging on to Facebook to say, "Guess what I gave my kid for dinner again tonight? A chocolate bar!" or "I screamed at my kid for no reason. I'm just premenstrual!" And sure, most of us aren't giving our kids chocolate bars for dinner or screaming at them all the time — I hope — but there's a tendency for mothers to try and keep up the appearance that we know what we're doing and always do it right rather than admit, "Guess what? I totally messed up today."
Sure, they might ask a question to their friends or parenting groups, but rarely will a mom openly say, "I have no idea what I am doing" or "I just messed up" without serious anguish over admitting this or whispering it in private. So in the spirit of setting a good example to start the New Year right, I'm listing some of those funny moments with my child that made me feel like, "Who gave me the license to raise a child?" Not the time I yelled at her because I was in a bad mood. That's just depressing. Not the time I slipped and she overheard me say that I wished Brad Pitt would violate me (can you blame me for wanting this?), but the humiliating moments in which I felt like the worst mom ever but could walk away later with a smile.
If we spent more time chuckling at our own expense, we'd be happier. It's time for moms to stop participating in the "Best Mom in the Universe" contest and start getting together to tell each other, "I've been there. It's OK. No one is perfect." It takes a village to raise a child, so expand your village and reach out to a mother you don't know well — or perhaps a new mom who's just getting on her feet in 2015. We can raise our kids alone and go on living as if we don't need anyone, but who wants to do that?
Source http://www.popsugar.com/moms/Moms-Admit-Parenting-Fails-36572586
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